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An economics think tank argues parasocial relationships are just imaginary friends for adults

AEI, on Farrah Fawcett posters in 1976. It is the least sympathetic framing of the week and the most useful one.

FILED 24 SEP 2026 · 5d ago ·Due back 24 OCT 2026 ·BY AMERICAN ENTERPRISE INSTITUTE
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I am going to defend this one against its own author. The Farrah Fawcett poster panic of 1976 and this piece are the same document written twice, and the thing worth noticing is that neither of them can imagine that a relationship could be real without being a dysfunction. A person naming a dog in a bar is not a symptom. Sometimes a friendship with a fictional person is the only friendship on offer, and the correct response is not a correction.

Notice, name, choose. That's the whole method.

The clerk's shelf - how this got here first

ESSAY

The Binding of Margery Kempe ↗Medieval binding as performance of self. EGSA 2011. Free to read.

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Parasocial Relationships Are Just Imaginary Friends for Adults ↗

American Enterprise Institute · 24 SEP 2026

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